Discover Why “The Thinking Environment” Is Crucial – Part 6

In Part 6 of The Ten Components of “The Thinking Environment” we look at FEELINGS!

I’m sure you will agree with me that feelings are a vital part of our own well-being and driving force behind how we see and react to to one another and the world.
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Component Six – Feelings

Principle

“Unexpressed feelings can inhibit good thinking.”

Definition

“Allowing sufficient emotional release to restore thinking.”

I feel that emotion is a subjective reaction to an experience. It is not a reality, only our perception of reality, related to the perceived impact it has on us based from our life experiences.

In this way, the same experience can evoke a different feeling in different people and of different magnitudes. I think this variation in the human experience of feelings is what makes us so fearful of where someone’s mind-set is when they have unexpressed feelings.

Personal Experience

I am an emotional person, reacting to situations (generally) more than others.

Knowing this, I tend to hide my true emotions which can shut me down. This in turn results in me not being fully present in a meeting and feeling disconnected.

My behaviour then indicates to others in the meeting that something is not quite right with me, yet they don’t know what it is.

This becomes a cycle not only affecting me and my thinking, but affecting other people’s level of being present and focused in a meeting as well.

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Knowing that one can use this Component to at least enlighten others that something is amiss (keeping to a respectful amount of detail and not oversharing) does put others at ease too, and for me – feels like a weight is off my shoulders and I don’t have to pretend anymore, or use the “I am fine” line, so often used to hide feelings.

Then I can, and do engage more fully.

Conclusion

I feel one needs to embrace that feelings are a reaction to an event, and we all experience these reactions differently.

Understanding this helps us to help others open up and express where they are without judgment in a calm and welcoming way.

This will also bear homage to the first six Components of: 

Firstly and secondly, Attention and Encouragement– by acknowledging they might have feelings that are hindering them and inviting them to express what they need to, to continue; 

Thirdly, Equality – allowing them the freedom to express themselves, even if you don’t share the feelings or haven’t had the same experience; thirdly,

Fourth, Ease – being created simply by the process of them expressing their feelings and re-igniting their thinking;

And lastly,  Appreciation – by re-enforcing that their experience matters, which in turn means that they matter.

 

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